Break up, over, splitsville, solo, single, split up, separate, end, part, finish, dumped, jilted, falling out, moving on, unaccompanied, solitary, unattached, lone ranger, unbound, emancipated, released, deserted, unaided, on your own, by yourself, single handed, uncommitted, casual, informal, solitary, divided, disconnected, depart, leave, left, goodbye, farewell, adieu, detach, fracture, disrupt, escape, demote, fail, give up, cancel, invalidate, cracked, dispersed, changed, interrupt, discontinue, weaken, pause, interval, sever, cut ties,  decline to continue, need space, fault, scattered, isolate, disappoint, disband, dispel, give the bounce, axed, disjointed, disassociate, secede, dissolve, disintegrate, splinter, intermission, throw away, stop, take time out, disassemble, modify, destroy, destruct, sever, adjourn, cease, terminate, stop, atomise, put asunder, decompose, disunion, estrangement, bisect, brawl, swan song, unfathomable, de-domiciling*, away, distant, independent, alone. 

Interesting how inadequate language can be, when you’re looking for a little meaning.  


*De-domiciling.  De-domiciling?  You’re kidding, right? Lawd.  What strange, verbose little people we can be.

34 thoughts on “Words

  1. Dusty Muffin says:





    You’re right. Too many words, but not one of them remotely satisfactory.

    I’m so sorry, Dolce.

  2. How about just ‘free’?

  3. kyknoord says:

    Words tend to disguise meaning, or dress it up. Truth lurks between the lines (although I have to say that ‘de-domiciling’ is just about the coolest thing I’ve heard all month).

  4. Flutter says:

    Too true Dolce. * big squishy hug *

    “It’s strange that words are so inadequate. Yet, like the asthmatic struggling for breath, so the lover must struggle for words.” T.S. Eliot

    Hang in there lady.

  5. ds says:

    i can’t remember where i heard it…and it probably is a little out of context…but the line that arrests the ‘play’ of endings for, and highlights the futility of trying to make sense of them, runs something like this:
    “everything that ends, ends badly…if it didn’t, it wouldn’t end!”

  6. Spoegs says:

    Probably the last person you want to hear from but maybe this will help. It took me three weeks to master flying into the office through the window and landing on a table with my socks on without sliding off the table and landing in a pile on the floor. I suppose what I’m trying to say is hang in there – even superheros have crap days.

  7. ds says:

    and on words…the first post on my blog reads: “Words are special creatures whose breath smells of meaning. But this a trap; a grand seduction whose trophy is belief”

    (inspired by something GaryM said about bated breath a long time ago on the blog)

  8. Semisweet says:

    Hang in there Dolce – things will get better improve recover excel progress develop perk up pick up…. and all other positives


  9. K Chasu says:

    a great many negative words there Dolce… i always liked being single. great sense of freedom and self-containment.

  10. Spoegs says:

    Oh and if you want to – you can take that beer off your head now and drink it. There’s always scope for self medication.

  11. Arbchick says:

    I’ve got to say…….’hang in there never works for me’…..I suggest the following:

    rage, tear, rip, smash, scream, howl, crawl, mourn, swear, curse, ache, yearn, hurt, long, rattle, fall, tremble, sleep, breathe, think, breathe, remember, breathe, hope, breathe, heal, *begin to stop having to remember to breathe*, repair, renew, let go, forget………..

  12. Arbchick says:

    And what K Chas said too……..also always got a real sense of liberation after a break up – but then again – I did the breaking up so it was what I wanted, I guess.

  13. Spoegs says:

    Yeeeehaaa Arbie! – looks like you’ve got a fantastic chance of taming the beast baby.

  14. Arbchick says:

    It IS the only way to tame it Spoegs….believe me, it doesn’t go quietly if you know what I mean.

  15. K Chasu says:

    ag – you give it a few days, start dressing up, feeling good in yourself… independent. i also always did the breaking up. dunno how i would feel if it was the other way around. chin up Dolce. put on your fuckme boots and hit the town.

  16. Spoegs says:

    Can I call you rodeo girl on the side? If you know what I mean. Apologies Dolce I need to clear this up.

  17. Dolce says:

    Dusty me too. And ta!

    Revo “Booooorn Freeeeeee, As Freeee as the Wiiiiind Blllloooooows”. See what you made me do?

    Ky I like that. A little word drag contest. Only, if you look closely, you can see the stubble and the strap.

    Flutter Ta lady. *hug* back

    DS x 2 Not so much bad as sad. On the other and out of the context of this post but not the context of blogland; and yet, some people can weave them into very, very pretty pictures. If this little worm hole has taught me anything its that words can’t be trusted, no matter how prettily they are strung together.

    Spoegs Thanks for the cackle, Sock Man!

    Semi I know. Just feels a little kak, shite, poo, doo doo right now!

    KC x 2 It’s not the single I mind so much. It’s the getting there. And wearin’ those boots today, china!

    Spoegs Lawd! Really? I can drink it? I think I did last week already. And Rodeo girl? Not a bad name for Arb

    Arbie Thanks chica. I’m practically hyperventilating 😉

  18. ghettolounge says:

    Dolce thanks, you have no idea how timeous this post is.

  19. Arbchick says:

    Cool D.

  20. ghettolounge says:

    As Semi said once – “it sucks maggots”!

  21. dolce says:

    Ghetto indeed it does. maggots!

  22. I kinda just like “ow”.

  23. dex says:

    awwww fuckitt, Dolce.

    so you’re back on the market???

    just kidding.

    you know, i was getting all mike lipkin-ensque, you know, trying to say how it’s better now than after 7 years of marriage and 2 kids and all that – but screw it.

    it fuckin hurts. And it sucks. but it’ll pass – you know that.

    So i’ll just leave you with this:

    You’re a catch, Dolla, a real catch. I mean that from the bottom of my shallow little heart. And you will find someone who deserves you. It doesn’t feel like it now, but you will.

  24. Semisweet says:

    It indeed does suck Dolce, but better now than later as Dex said.

    Who’s the LOSER anyway? Def not you 🙂 He will realise that he lost a diamond while he was so busy picking up stones along the way. My ex did (bless his philandering ass)!

    The right person is out there and waiting to be with you. Be strong, give yourself some healing time and then let him find you.

    Remember, the ama-family is here for you 😉

  25. Dolce says:

    Champers I know you know! Thanks chica.

    Dex MWAH! Big wet, squidgey kiss for YOU! Now stop being so fekkin’ nice or I’ll cry. And we don’t want that. Do we? DO WE?

    Semi the worst? He’s a lovely, sweet, tender, kind, gentle guy who’s just not that into me. Which is what sucks the most. Thanks though…

  26. Flutter says:

    “He’s a lovely, sweet, tender, kind, gentle guy..”
    Are we talking about the same person here?!

    …who’s just not that into me”
    His loss Dolce.

    His loss.

  27. Semisweet says:

    I agree Flutter…his loss…bigtime…no matter how lovely, sweet, tender and gentle he is…he’s clearly stupid.

  28. ekke says:

    This post made me sad for you.

    But then I realised how many people are pouring in their love and support for you, and that made me smile…

    For what it’s worth from an intarweb stranger – Keep truckin’, lass. You’ll be okay…

  29. dolce says:

    Thanks Ekke. Yeah. Good people lurk here.

  30. Dusty Muffin says:

    Dolce, if it makes you feel any better, I’ve been checking out how much the blogs on amagama are ‘worth’. And so far you are the winner:

    Your blog, http://www.dolce.amagama.com, is worth $22,581.60

    Jislaaik meisie. *bow* *scrape*

  31. Nossie says:

    Dolce…this is me “picking up stompies” again…but for what it’s worth, Mr Right IS out there….be patient. All the cretins out there that have crossed your path are just that. Maybe you should just sit back and check out the passing traffic…he’ll find you and when he does, you will know it within the first few minutes. Quality like you desreves and will only get the very best. hang in there, girl..we are all with you. XXX

  32. Nossie says:

    Spoegs!!! Did you get the urgent message from the Big Giant Head????

  33. dolce says:

    Dusty Where do you find this stuff. *cackle*. It’s only coz you fine people come and play here regularly. SO THANK YOU!

    Nossie Thanks Nos. I know. It was definitely the right time for us to split, but it’s still difficult. Ag, watch this space. I’m going to out to play soon! *grin*

  34. […] As to the “why”, it basically comes down to this: In similar circumstances, my former lover once wrote: Interesting how inadequate language can be, when you’re looking for a little meaning source […]

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